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Dear Phyllis,
My siblings and I have been discussing moving our mother into senior apartments in the next year or two. She has lived in her La Canada home for 40 years, and it won’t be an easy move. I am the only one who lives locally, so this will be a lot for me to take on. How can I start planning? Thank you, June
Dear June,
I am so glad you are planning. Since it can be difficult for your mother to give up her home, I suggest that you help her get excited about the move. For example, take her to visit some housing options. There are several senior apartments on Honolulu Avenue in Montrose.
Additionally, because this type of “move down” can be especially challenging for seniors, focus on the positive aspects of the transition. For instance, she will have less responsibility, less maintenance, and fewer household chores. Once she decides on the size of her new living space, you can then help her determine what furniture and personal belongings she will want to bring with her.
Begin an initial decluttering session: Thin out book collections; her favorite cookbooks might be special keepsakes for other family members. Likely, her closet space will be much less at her new home, help her decide which clothing can be donated. The longer one has lived in the home, the more unnecessary items we cling to. If your mother is not frequently cooking, perhaps you could pass along some of the kitchen appliances. Donate what you aren’t passing on to friends or family and ask for a receipt for tax purposes. Review paperwork, shred what’s not necessary.
Try to tackle one closet or one drawer a week. In six months you can revisit closets and cupboards, and likely your mom will be more receptive to tossing or donating the surplus. If your mother seems receptive to these changes, you are probably ready to meet with a Realtor.
Now is the perfect time for your Realtor to provide you with a list of suggested improvements that will more than pay for themselves at the time of closing. Making these improvements and repairs now will allow your mother to enjoy them for another year or so.
